Success of "Skills over wills"

The four day bolus course was amazing for the kids as well as for me! 

Gratitude seemed to seep into the kids. 

Whenever virat gets cranky over a small hurt or being hungry or anything all his mother needs to do is remind him "Is he Khusi Ram(happy fellow) or Dukhi Ram(sad fellow)?" He knows how Khushi Ram reacts in every situation. Infact the Khushi Ram Dukhi Ram Roleplay has so deeply soaked into the kids that they really know its effective application. 

I remember we were going out for an outing and for some reasons we got little late. My hubby got really bugged up waiting and seeing his plans not taking shape.... He was really irritated, continuously throwing words that elaborated his annoyance. Naisha very sneakily made a statement "Thank you God for not making us very late" 

The whole scenario changed! Mohit hugged her and we enjoyed the time that was left! It is so wonderful to note how perspective can be changed and really worse conditions can be enjoyed! How a small child can do that deliberately and not just by chance! If one can make a statement that can turn the sorrow and complains into joy and gratitude...how powerful that statement would be and how powerful would that person be! 

Attitude is made by practice! It is a learned behaviour. Attitude of Gratitude bolus was very strong! 

MILKY WAY......Drinking milk made easy!

Milky Way is the whole galaxy that conspires with you in your efforts to make your child drink milk!

Hey moms all we are going to do is practicing to put facts to practical use. So first I mention a fact and then the how about...fine!
1. Children do what their parents do!
Do you drink milk with your kids? Sip by sip, enjoying, competing (who finishes first) talking about milk, it's benefits, it's origin and where from!
2. Children do what they enjoy, they seek fun in life !
A four year can make shakes in the mixer. A beautiful milk book, milk table, milk accessories (tumblers, straw, coffee, bournvita, horlicks, crushed almonds, muesli, corn flakes, chocos, wheat flakes, fresh fruits, lovely saucer bowls and colouring his favourite cartoon drinking milk ). Get innovative ladies it's time we made Milky Way the most interesting one.
3. Children love changes!
Have a new Milky Way each time, a new way at least 7 of them, each can be repeated twice and then changed....club each way with days of a weak! Wow, and then repeat it over! It's not a headache.... It's fun. It's challenge!
4. Children love to choose and behave like elders!
Be smart... Give customised choices!
Diya: I am hungry
Mom: ya honey please let me know: cold milk, hot milk or room temperature milk?
Okay with all; then pick up one chit out of these three! Or club them with days of the week or odd/even number of dates...or.... It's always the princess who decides!!!
She decides which kind of milk( there's no option of having no milk)
5. Children don't like to be forced into anything!
Avoid: sentences that are forceful. Like: " you have to drink milk anyways"
(Child feels like a slave, let alone a princess)
Drinking milk is a rule of the house! She has to drink milk anyways; I'm just asking you not to be vocal about it!
It's not yet over! Wait for  "Milky Way 2"!!

SKILLS OVER WILLS PART 1

Hey that's my forthcoming workshop first time for the kids! This is just a brief write up to tell what is that going to be about!
It's empirical that life is quite a package with its ups and it's downs; with haves and have nots; with happiness and sorrows! Listen to just anyone's story, life is all the same!
What can make life really worth living and so much fulfilling are the skills that outweigh the "so much" that we offer through our wills. 
The first part of "Skills Over Wills" is focussing on the following:
1. Attitude of Gratitude: The posture of thankfulness automatically eliminates complains from our lives. 
2. Creativity: Being creative has really little to do with art and so much to do with innovations! A creative mind is one that's good at creating life in life! 
3. Visualisation: Imagine it happen, make it happen, see it happen.....live in that happening!! Visualisation is a mind picture making technique that can fetch you any thing and every thing in life! 
4. Self Image: Knowing the person staying with you is most important for happiness in life. Loving that person makes life worthwhile. That person for you is you!!!!

Bolus dose: Twelve hour course (3hours x 4days) 
Maintenance dose:  3 minutes conclave Once a day given by parents!

Maintenance dose tutorial for parents is complimentary! 

DO YOU WANT AN OBEDIENT CHILD ?

I'm particularly not fond of children who are good at following! Well, under the pretext of disciplining children and making them obedient we kind of stop them to use their own head! 

Which parent today wants their child to stand on the burning deck whence all but he flees! I am sure no one wants the replica of Casabianca..for the noblest thing which perished there, was not that young faithful heart but a brain that kept looking for orders when what should be done was so obvious! 

I would rather have a child who can use his brain to walk out of weird situations! I would love to see my son find a tier or just anything clinging on to which he could jump into the sea float and possibly survive! Or better so give others brilliant and creative ideas to save oneself! 

Thinkers are not followers!

Creators aren't followers!

Inventors take unique paths!

Re think: Do you really want an obedient child ????
(Casabianca is a story of an obedient boy who kept standing on the burning deck just because his father asked him to stand there and wait until he returned; but the ship caught fire and the father laid unconscious so couldn't ask his son to run. That's why the obedient son burnt alive in fire)

A pinch of junk 2

Junk food is something we don't want our child to have! We all know of the deleterious effects of the same. Take a look at regular conversation between parent and child:

Parent: Hey Samar, if you finish this glass of milk I'll give you chocolate!
Samar: Half chocolate for half a glass of milk????
Parent (thinking): ya okay! But milk first!
Samar( looking at the glass of milk as though it's the hardest fluid to gulp): okay mom!
Samar drinks half a glass as quickly as possible to reduce the duration of pain while drinking milk.
Parent gives him the chocolate halved!

What has Samar learnt?
1. Drinking milk is a potential way to get chocolate.
2. It's moms wish that I drink milk
3. Bribery is the best way to get work done
4. I can probably get a chocolate for every thing that my mom wants me to do!
5. Chocolate is a prize!
6. Prizes are meant to be fetched! They are the dreams and aspirations! So but obviously they are not only good but really very good!

None of this is what parents actually wish to convey!

 Bottom line: If junk is a prize it is definitely something to be sought for!
Let your prizes be fruits, playing in a park, taking them to a friends house, telling them a story, doing painting or anything that you want your kids to be involved in NOT and NEVER that what you know is harmful!! Bribery doesn't work very well, the more you use it the more stuck you'll feel and the more you will have to use it more and the more you will actually fail in your endeavors! Next I'm going to post.  "Drinking milk made easy"!!!

Mom-Of-Two

God bestowed me with second baby, I am now a mother of two! So many felicitations and blessings were falling from all friends and relatives...it doubled all my joy! One lady gave me a warning though..." It's going to be so very difficult now, I am telling you. Being a mother of two is a tedious job!" To be very frank, it is!

Mine was not a normal delivery this time, it was Caesarian section. I was more debilitated than I thought and certainly more burdened than I thought! It was "the testing hour" ! I felt as if I was getting drowned in the whorls of water, a sudden cyclone had hit me and immediately I was reminded of that lady's warning. In a much depressed tone I said to myself how true was she! I don't know how but a kind of courage bestowed upon me and I thought I should at least try my way out! 

I used to get so irritated saving my younger one from the elder one. She would not listen to me and take all the advantage of my passivity and helplessness. I behaved as if she was my biggest enemy that time! 

I didn't need warnings nor a discussion on the problem and how every mom of two had to face it. I needed a way out! I needed to pause and think it over! 

I realised I tackled what I expected and knew about better than what came as a shocking surprise. I would have been so thankful to someone who would have told me beforehand what I will come across and how should I deal with it! 

But it was not warning but encouragement and strength that would and could have helped instead of a  warning!

As of now I request the already mom-of-two not to scare the to-be-mom-of-two by giving warnings, just tell them to read the write up that's coming soon!