Apparently, India is a country where parents have more dreams about their daughter in law than son would have for his wife. What so ever the case might be the truth is that marriage of your son is the last responsibility for the parents. For the son it's the beginning of a responsible life. Even though parents are the affected ones and their sons wedding is a part of their story, the bare truth is that it is the beginning of his (son's ) story. Here are some steps I consider appropriate for parents of all those who have not found out for themselves their lady love.
Step 1. Ask your son if he wants to get married and why.
Step 2. Let him know what is marriage all about!
Step 3. Let him know what he will have to give in it and what all can he expect.
Step 4. Let him know that he will have to continuously work on it.
Step 5. Ask him to describe the kind of wife he would like to spend his whole
life with. The description should be as elaborate as possible.
Step 6. Ask him to write the characteristics point wise and in order of priority.
Step 7. Ask him what are the absolute NO NO for him!
Step 8. Ask him to write the negatives in a girl that he'll be okay with.
Step 9. After all this mechanical homework tell him that it's very much possible to have immense love in an arranged marriage. Love is quite a possibility.
Step 10. Ask your son to make a profile shortlisting basis.....the basis on which you will keep or reject profiles without meeting/ talking.
Step 11. Exchange of profiles.... Give yours and fetch a number of profiles from various marriage bureaus, newspapers or shaadi.com etc.
Step 11. Short list the profiles using your profile shortlisting basis.
Step 12. Ask your son to make a Talk shortlisting basis......the basis on which you will keep or reject profiles after talking.
Step 13. Short list the profiles after talking.
Step 14. Do your homework befor you meet the girl party.
Step 15. Meet
Step 16. Decide
All these steps need further description which will come in time to come!
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