Well, the kind of binoculars I am talking of are not available in any market! We certainly can never prepare a binocular all by ourselves. But the vision we want through it can be worked upon. We can prepare it and I am here to give you one vague recipe to give it a form.
1. Alarm bell: Fix it in your brain - Any altered behaviour of your child must trigger it. The child might just be verbally abused or abused by action (teacher showing hand indicating a tight slap). Never forget the child might have been sexually abused and don't ignore the fact if you have a son and you feel secure. Sons are just as susceptible as daughters.
2. Money in unit of minutes (TIME): Get a chunk of your heart into a habit of narrating every single detail of every minute when he/she has been away. If you don't have time immediately after your child returns home. Keep a recorder inside a toy mom. He/she could just speak out his/her day out.
3. The correct frame of Questions: "How was your day?" is a good one. "How good was your day?" is a better one! "Was everything alright today?" is going to drive your child into negativity. Its a good idea to start with MCQs very small good, small good, big good or a very big good! Include actions, stretch your hands wide apart for very big good. Leading questions should go like "Enjoyed?"; "Loved your school?" etc etc. Your child is getting into a frame of mind in his/her early school years so be aware!!
4. Check the school bag: This one advice comes from my auntie (Uma chachi ji) and I agree to it. And as she said do the checking but never look or sound like a CID(interrogating officer)!!
5. Stay in touch with the teachers: The teachers must know that you are a very well aware parent well connected with your child(ren). But don't poke your nose too much into them. Never judge them. Always appreciate them. If your child loves his/her ma'am, she is a 80% good teacher. Don't beg teachers to give special attention to your kid. Let him/her grow normally unless he/she is a child with special needs else he/she will become a child with special need(I am sure that's something you never want)!
6. Lead your child into confidence: Demeaning words better avoided and boosting words best used!
7. Scan through complexes: Superiority complexes are just as bad as inferiority complexes. Having complex is one single disease. A human with superiority complex is highly liable to enter into an inferiority complex and vice versa. So better keep them in balance!
8. Make them feel loved: Loving them is one thing and showing love is another. the children must feel loved.
I'm sure parenting will be more peaceful with this knowledge at hand!
1. Alarm bell: Fix it in your brain - Any altered behaviour of your child must trigger it. The child might just be verbally abused or abused by action (teacher showing hand indicating a tight slap). Never forget the child might have been sexually abused and don't ignore the fact if you have a son and you feel secure. Sons are just as susceptible as daughters.
2. Money in unit of minutes (TIME): Get a chunk of your heart into a habit of narrating every single detail of every minute when he/she has been away. If you don't have time immediately after your child returns home. Keep a recorder inside a toy mom. He/she could just speak out his/her day out.
3. The correct frame of Questions: "How was your day?" is a good one. "How good was your day?" is a better one! "Was everything alright today?" is going to drive your child into negativity. Its a good idea to start with MCQs very small good, small good, big good or a very big good! Include actions, stretch your hands wide apart for very big good. Leading questions should go like "Enjoyed?"; "Loved your school?" etc etc. Your child is getting into a frame of mind in his/her early school years so be aware!!
4. Check the school bag: This one advice comes from my auntie (Uma chachi ji) and I agree to it. And as she said do the checking but never look or sound like a CID(interrogating officer)!!
5. Stay in touch with the teachers: The teachers must know that you are a very well aware parent well connected with your child(ren). But don't poke your nose too much into them. Never judge them. Always appreciate them. If your child loves his/her ma'am, she is a 80% good teacher. Don't beg teachers to give special attention to your kid. Let him/her grow normally unless he/she is a child with special needs else he/she will become a child with special need(I am sure that's something you never want)!
6. Lead your child into confidence: Demeaning words better avoided and boosting words best used!
7. Scan through complexes: Superiority complexes are just as bad as inferiority complexes. Having complex is one single disease. A human with superiority complex is highly liable to enter into an inferiority complex and vice versa. So better keep them in balance!
8. Make them feel loved: Loving them is one thing and showing love is another. the children must feel loved.
I'm sure parenting will be more peaceful with this knowledge at hand!
Its a really informative article and suggests that you are a well aware mother.Keep it up !!
ReplyDeleteIt's v good. Enjoyed n learnt a lot. Keep it up..
ReplyDeleteThanks Vinod and Ashish
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