Hi readers, I received various requests asking me to come up with my write ups! Trust me, the trust you bestow upon me is one great factor that pulls me towards writing. Staying away from you all is as much a pain to me as it is to you. For all your love and trust my warmest regards. I apologise for hibernating!
Tantrum is a learned behaviour. Tantrum is more often than not, an effort to get something than a sigh of grief of not getting something.
It's needless to say that children are all brains all the time. They are fabulous at reading psychology, especially that of their parents.
When Deepu was only four months old, his only way of communication was his cry......a cry for food, a cry when he was wet, a cry for nursing, a cry for staying away from mummy. He grew and so did his wishes and desires. He also cried for the rocking seat, daddy's mobile phone, mamma's bangles, the brand new dress ...and a number of things that are not advisable to be given in the tender palms of an infant.
Deepu is very intelligent and observant, every moment he is learning. He is learning, who, when, how and under what circumstances, will finally hand over the desired object to him. He is observing and carefully noting down the threshold of both of his parents. He knows precisely how much he will have to cry to have it in his hands. He knows it gets easier to obtain things in front of grandparents and guests.
It's neither the "yes" nor the "no" that spoils children. It's the "no that turns into a yes" due to "THE XYZ" that the child does that lays fertile ground for "tantrums" to flourish! Stick to your first "no". Stick to your spouse's "no" too.
Make it a rule. Never let the child lead your "no" into a "yes". Children throw tantrums only because it gives them what they want.
You will notice children throwing tantrums in front of moms but never with dads....they know what works with whom.
It's like playing chess with the world's most intelligent and observant creations.....children, our own children! Tantrum is a learned behaviour and we can send a different message all together to prevent it and cure it too. Prevention is better than cure....much easier too. So just be careful with your moves with the little genius!
Hope this was useful to you all. Kindly put your valuable comments and querries.
Tantrum is a learned behaviour. Tantrum is more often than not, an effort to get something than a sigh of grief of not getting something.
It's needless to say that children are all brains all the time. They are fabulous at reading psychology, especially that of their parents.
When Deepu was only four months old, his only way of communication was his cry......a cry for food, a cry when he was wet, a cry for nursing, a cry for staying away from mummy. He grew and so did his wishes and desires. He also cried for the rocking seat, daddy's mobile phone, mamma's bangles, the brand new dress ...and a number of things that are not advisable to be given in the tender palms of an infant.
Deepu is very intelligent and observant, every moment he is learning. He is learning, who, when, how and under what circumstances, will finally hand over the desired object to him. He is observing and carefully noting down the threshold of both of his parents. He knows precisely how much he will have to cry to have it in his hands. He knows it gets easier to obtain things in front of grandparents and guests.
It's neither the "yes" nor the "no" that spoils children. It's the "no that turns into a yes" due to "THE XYZ" that the child does that lays fertile ground for "tantrums" to flourish! Stick to your first "no". Stick to your spouse's "no" too.
Make it a rule. Never let the child lead your "no" into a "yes". Children throw tantrums only because it gives them what they want.
You will notice children throwing tantrums in front of moms but never with dads....they know what works with whom.
It's like playing chess with the world's most intelligent and observant creations.....children, our own children! Tantrum is a learned behaviour and we can send a different message all together to prevent it and cure it too. Prevention is better than cure....much easier too. So just be careful with your moves with the little genius!
Hope this was useful to you all. Kindly put your valuable comments and querries.
good to see you back..good one.. we all missed you.. keep writing..
ReplyDeleteYa I will, for sure
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