HOME ZONE 3: EFFECTIVELY SUPERVISING BOREDOM

Introducing boredom as a tool of self expansion is revolutionary. Here effective supervision has its own unique role. It's particularly important to be alone, be silent, learn to observe things around, view them in all possible perspectives.....and most importantly watch your own self. Keeping a check on our thought process is a great skill.
If it is that being alone without books, TV or any gadget and without planning and thinking and worrying is even new to you....and you fear that you won't be able to lead kids into this....then there's a good news for you.
"Not in making them follow but in making them lead lies the secret of an effective supervision."
What you need to check on is that when you let a human enter silence.....new doors open up and now nothing can be scheduled or decided or limited. In this vastness the mind of this young sprout can go anywhere, to whatever extent and can generate enormous curiosity to learn and know. In this urge, they might want to experiment, experience or create something that might mandate some basic knowledge. So, you need to stay emotionally connected and permissible, ready with time and attention to answer if you know. If you don't know, partner her/him in finding the answers. Please do that with an open, scientific and logical mind that's not preoccupied with lame cultural statements. "That's what happens."
"World runs like this."
... and rotten stuff of that sort. Every WHY should either be answered or it's answer be sought after.
Let the gap between thought and action grow larger. Thought leads to impulsive curiosity and urges immediate action or experimentation.
This is where you can introduce step by step process.....thought, knowledge, analysis, curiosity, finding, judging the pros and cons, planning and then carefully executing it in steps and reflecting at every step!!!
Lead them into thought, contemplation and profound reflection. If this process of contemplation is instilled in the reflexes of the child, she/he is bound to shine....In any field. 

Teaching the art of Reflection shall be considered in my next post, HOME ZONE 4

HOME ZONE 2: BOREDOM

Hi again...!
So no TV, no Phones, no I pad, no tabs.....
The big question remains.....THEN WHAT?
We need a replacement....because the KIDS ARE GETTING BORED.....!
We need to keep them busy and give them constructive options.
What is the solution to boredom....?
How to help children avoid getting bored...?

How much parents put in efforts to fill time and space of kids with some thing constructive......that adds to the personality of kids is beyond description. The zeal of an enthusiastic parenthood is at its peak in this era.

I just would like to bring to notice of all of you the most productive commodity of childhood.

In the nothingness lies the secret door to a world of creativity, thoughts, queries, self reflection, invention and discoveries.

In an age where every minute of our life is scheduled, where is the time to ponder, to wonder, to think, to feel , to observe, to analyse, to infer, to discover, to invent, to reflect upon the experiences, to acquire wisdom ?
All of this and more are the precious outcomes of what all parents want to avoid ......BOREDOM!
Wisdom is not legible in the pages of books, it's an outcome of keen observation of life and it's proactive reflection. It's the time devoted to self. It's the process of self healing.
Don't snatch away the most productive asset of this age ......BOREDOM. Let the young geniuses contemplate the mysteries of this universe all alone.

Boredom leaves time for self brain storming.
Now it's not for you to lecture all this to the kids. It's for you to understand it's importance.
Just slowly and steadily bring in the concept of spending time with self.

Newton was relaxing all alone under an apple tree, pondering and observing the apple fall...there is where the law of gravity comes!!!

Boredom is where thinkers are created.
Before you can make them love being with themselves....you need to know it's importance.
Don't fill their hours with the classes.
Leave some time to be bored!!!

This is just one important concept for parents.

No readymade solutions here. Only concepts and condiments!!! To help you make your own customised parenting recipe!!

To summarise:
1. Getting bored is counter productive so no need to find solutions of boredom for the kids.
2. Spending time with self, observing, analysing and thinking comes to an unoccupied brain.

Never the less, the kids need to be supervised and certain things be taught...
HOME ZONE 3 will come as a guide to effective supervision.

HOME ZONE 1

Parenting is like mathematics, you need to understand the fundamentals. There's no use of solving one particular problem for you. 

Well, many parents are coming up and asking me how to keep their kids busy, what's the solution of their boredom, how to maintain our own peace tackling kids 24x7 and many more similar ones. HOME ZONE is going to be a serial blog for parents when their kids are at home at length. 

I don't want to give you any ready made solutions for such questions, I want you to understand the fundamentals of parenting which will help you in taking your own decision and a customised one according to your own needs, family environment, practicality and situation. I want to empower you with the confidence and applicability so that you don't feel disabled or dependent in a situation that's similar but not the same. 

It's not an easy pill. I'll make you use your mind and be creative.....I don't believe in giving ready made solutions that are just short cuts. And Short cuts lead to no success in long term. 

The most luring thing to do and the easiest give in is to hand over the tiny little screen addivtive as cocain to the child, or simply turn on the idiot box (TV). And this is an absolute No No!!! 

Wait for HOME ZONE 2 for furthering with this!!!!

COMING SOON!!!!

RAISING TEENAGERS!

One should not raise teenagers. I say this because its just not that, that they need or want. Teenagers don't need to be raised! They need intensely, immensely and necessarily to feel responsible, capable and take their own decisions!! 

If you ask me raising should stop the day they strike the footsteps of teen age (thirteenth birthday)!! 

As a parent one must align our patterns of concern and behaviour to the needs of our children …one that increases the binding, that facilitates more learning and collaborative decision-making!! 

If one tries to force our decisions, it wouldn't work to control situations! And being laid back just wouldn't work to control your heart rate!! The best strategy for parents is to play and display mannerisms and behaviour so that teenagers make you a part of their conspiracies and decision making! 

It's an art that takes patience! It's also science and takes strategizing, calculations and planning! Most of all it takes courage to accept the changing thought patterns of the new generation! 

More than the children it's the parents who thank surviving it!! 

PEER PRESSURE PROBLEMS

Are you one of the parents struggling with peer pressure related problems. He's comparing every bit of his life with his friends. His friends, those you consider not that worthy.
You are ready to do anything to put him off that circle.
It's a stage that each one parent will have to come across.
There are skills which as parents we never focussed on....those that are powerful enough to prevent mishaps that we as parents fear the most.

1. Decision making
2. Priority setting
3. Time management
4. Controlling desires

Just think over it if our kids knew that friends are not forcefully hit on them like other relations and that we have a chance to make a choice whom to make a friend whom not to.....wouldn't they think before making friends.
If they knew the priorities, wouldn't they plan differently.
If they learnt to manage their time, wouldn't they balance friendships and knowledge assimilation.
If they knew how to control their desires wouldn't they choose more wisely and stop flowing in emotions. If they are not skilled to deal with their emotions how will they deal with their hormones...?

Problem is not the friends. Problem is the inefficiency of coping with the world. Problem is that parents thought that parenting skills were inborn and didn't need to be learnt.

NO MORE SCARY STROKES 1

Creativity is the charm of childhood. It's not about the skill or art structuring that attracts me; it's about the connection it can bring about between the parent and the child. 

Messy spaces, wastage of paints, spilling of water, soiled clothes and a havoc at home makes it all so SCARY for the parents! Kids also don't learn as much at home as they do with a professional teacher. Parents are not skilled enough in art
Everything seems to argue in the favour of sending the child to a professional instead.
Here I'm not talking of the skill. I'm just talking of the connection it's capable of bringing about!
Strokes need not be that scary anymore! NO MORE SCARY STROKES is s serial post to give you tips on some whole some activities which are less messy and more manageable!
There's nothing that I prefer over the other! But today I'm talking of this WATER COLOUR CAKE that is too easy for small children!

These water colours are easy to use and cause little wastage!

I just love hand prints!

Using different colours on one palm works too beautiful!

Making stalks with finger pulp creates a personalised floral appearance! 

Took no more than half an hour for three kids aged 3, 4 and 7!

By product of connection is the most wanted outcome!

POSITIVITY RECIPES 1

In an age where remaining positive is so tough for ourselves to follow, how do we instill positivity in our own kids? POSITIVITY RECIPES is a serial post to inspire and enlighten ways to a positive attitude!

Yesterday was another roughed up tired evening and as I sat lousily on my couch, my daughter, NITYA came and sat besides, with her all time sweet nothings! In the middle of everything she mentioned that she got FOUR wrongs in the dictation test that morning! 

“How many rights dear?”

She sprung out and rushed for her notebook and counted the wrongs and said... 

“ One, two , three and four.... FOUR wrongs!”

I insisted again 

“ Count the ticked ones”

She started “ one two three.... thirteen rights, BUT mom FOUR wrongs! “

“ AND THIRTEEN RIGHTS” I said with reinforcing the RIGHTS!

She got puzzled...

“Ya, Last year I got only two wrongs so four wrongs are really a lot” trying to prove that her focus was on the right thing... WRONG! 

Focus on the wrongs was the right thing for her!

“In any case NINE more rights than the wrongs!”

“So...” she said

I answered “So I mean you ‘THE NITYA’ are more capable than incapable! 

And you want to say that ‘THE NITYA’ is incapable! “

Her look was all empty but receptive! 

Then I asked her orally the spellings of the words that were right in her test. She said she knew them and more importantly we must learn the wrong ones. 

“ I’m happy for the wrong ones because they are the ones you’ll remember for ever” 

An oral dictation test again amidst the talk and all of them were right! 

“Seventeen rights!” 

Hidden but obvious cues was a signal to focus on what she had not on what she didn’t; on what she achieved not what she didn’t! 

I’m waiting for another dictation test wish she comes up with her rights! 

Number and percentages don’t matter because in her life her ATTITUDE will be the single most important factor influencing her happiness, success and zeal in life! 

That’s exactly what I aim to assist her with...an AMAZING ATTITUDE of looking at the POSITIVES in life!